As we grow and mature, we realize the break-up cliché phrase, “It’s not you, it’s me,” seems rather selfish. When you’re with someone for an extended period of time–1 month could be another person’s 5 years with another–you grow and you change, and you definitely evolve into a different person, in consideration to the person you were in past relationships.
There I was, in my past lusts’ and crushes’ lives, quiet, bored, and settling. Ariel (Grace) wanted something new. Ariel (Grace) wanted to walk on the warm sand. No one understood. They were all good, in their own individual ways, but they weren’t great. And it’s not just the sex; it’s the warm embraces, the nervous glances with flapping butterflies, the conversations and friendly debates, the commonalities and the differences . . . that was always missing.
Once upon a time, Prince Eric was completely miserable. He hated himself and he liked his girlfriend, very much. The fighting would never cease, to the point where his little sister was violently involved. His girlfriend punched his sister in the face.
Things suddenly began to turn up for Prince Eric as he ignored the phone calls and apologetic texts from his ex-love, and as he began to text and call a new flame.
To clarify, Prince Eric and I are doing just fine. I fall in love with him more and more each day, and we’re really progressing as a couple. We’ve got our whole summer planned out with trips to the beach, concerts and festivals, and a list of restaurants and bars we want to try (even though we always go back to our favorite: Chipotle). Both of us are expanding in our career paths; I finally have a promising lead on a job I would love to have and, in my opinion, fit well with, while he’s in the processing of fulfilling his childhood dream of becoming a police officer. We’re growing and changing and bettering ourselves thanks to the confidence, love, and support we give each other.
So, to say, “It’s not you, it’s me,” in a break-up is selfish. That’s no way to thank someone in shaping you as the person you were when you were in the relationship and the person you are leaving it.
Disclaimer: Purely a random thought. I don’t plan on breaking up with Prince Eric anytime soon (or ever, if that doesn’t sound too much like an Overly Obsessed Girlfriend meme). It was just a random thought, and a look back down memory lane and all of the times I’ve said, “It’s not you, it’s me.”